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Achieve your New Year's resolutions

Shoutout to all who has a goal for 2018 to accomplish the goals of 2017 which you should have done in 2016 because you made a promise to yourself to do it all in 2015 as it didn't go as planned in 2014. Recognize this? I'm sure you do. 93% of us quit before January is over and we don't keep our New Year's resolutions because they disappear in the clutter of every day life while we dive headfirst at too many goals at once.

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Many of you wander around in directions away from your goals not even aware of it. It might feel like you're constantly trying to do more and be better by juggling multiple balls all at once while you're actually accomplishing very little or even less than before. Some might even look years and years back on their lives not remembering most of it as it's all become a plain routine to be alive while you're walking around on auto-pilot with goals within, never to get there. Do you feel like you're always taking one step forward and two steps back? Like the moment you feel like you're finally getting somewhere, a setback is keeping you away from a major comeback. You're not alone. It's happening to all of us.

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We all have several goals and we want it NOW! Preferably yesterday, but we rarely complete the task to get there. Why is it so easy to make a promise to yourself and so hard to keep it? I've come to the conclusion that when you make yourself a promise the only one suffering if you don't keep it is yourself. If you promise to do something for someone else they suffer if you don't keep it. We prioritize ourselves to little and others too much. As long as it doesn't affect anyone else but us we usually don't care that much. How did we end up in a situation where you're own life, goals and dreams falls short compared to helping others achieve theirs? An interesting answer to that is found in "The Four Tendencies" which is a very interesting read. I'm the "Upholder" within The Four Tendencies, which makes it easier for me to stick to my promises and almost never let anyone interfere with my goals. You should take the time to read The Four Tendencies, as I'm sure you'll understand yourself and those around you better.

As an Upholder I'm just as eager to keep my own promises to myself as the ones I give to others. But, I'm only human and now and then my time and priorities falls short to what I've decided to do and I've always wondered how I could make it easier to follow through. So I came up with a recipe. I call it "The 6-step Foundation Theory".

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The 6-step Foundation Theory

1. Write down all your goals.

2. Make a priority list.

3. Make a plan.

4. Review the importance of your goals.

5. Review need to do/nice to do.

6. Get started.

1. Write down all your goals.
ALL of them! Write down all you can think of. What do you want? Do you want more money? Do you want a better job? Do you want better health? Do you want to lose weight? Do you want to get on stage? Do you want to write a book? Do you want to meditate more? Don't be scared to write down too much, you'll get it all in a system later.

2. Make a priority list.
When you've written it all and there's nothing left to add, make a priority list. Put your goals in prioritized order from 1 -> x. What is most important for YOU to achieve first? Focus on that. Don't think about what is most important for others. If you start at the wrong end of your list your building blocks to your foundation containing other less important goals will balance unsteady stacked on top of each other. It's like building a house. You need a strong foundation and you have to start at the bottom with the most important brick and build one brick at a time or the whole house will eventually collapse and you'll have to try again in 2019.

3. Make a plan.
Start at nr 1 and make a plan for nr 1, then for nr 2 etc. Write down what you have to do to get there, why it's important to you and specify(!) the optimal outcome of this goal. Work your way through every goal. While planning your first move, figure out what you have to do first to start the journey. Maybe your plan should be based on following up on e-mails or calls, getting yourself to the gym or opening scary white envelopes from last year? Whatever starts the process, do that first. After that, make an action plan. It can be daily planning, weekly planning, monthly planning or even annual planning. Do this with every goal you've written down before moving on to the next step.

4. Review your list.
Is nr 1 really the most important one or is it the nicest one? To be able to build a strong foundation you need to get the first brick perfectly placed. You can't just through a bunch of bricks (goals) on top of each other hoping it will hold. It won't. Take your time. Building a foundation is like prioritizing what to put where and finding balance. It needs to be organized and well planned. The first is the biggest building block of everything that comes after it.

5. Review need to do/nice to do.
Review all of them again through the "need to do/nice to do" - filter as I like to call it. Pay close attention to if there's anything within your plan that is more within the category "nice to do", than "need to do". Keep only the "need to do". If you're working on achieving a goal there's SO much you can add to your plan, but do you really need to do all you've planned or would it just be nice to add that too? Go through your plan and X out "nice to do's" and keep the "need to do's". This makes it all a whole lot easier to achieve, even more specific and less time consuming.

"It would be nice to eat the whole thing at once, but you have to chew it so you don't choke on it." - Be The Palmtree

6. Get started.
Don't do it all at once! Figure out how time consuming your first, second and third goal plan is before you do too much from day one. Follow the plan of your first goal, or maybe the first and the second for 7 days. If you manage to follow your plan for 7 days, grab the next brick, your next goal and place this brick where it does not interfere with the previous goal. If you didn't manage to follow your plan, make adjustments and try again. You have 52 weeks from New Year's Eve, no need to hurry! Also keep in mind that you can never find time to do anything, you make time, just as you make the foundation, you don't just find it. It's all about adding new routines one at a time and making time where there's room to be able to be consistent and make the changes become new habits and not just another goal you didn't achieve. 

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With a process like this you're able to make time here to there, continue your normal life and routines while gently adding goal achieving productivity into your life - one brick at a time.

Happy New Year and may your New Year's resolutions build you a strong and happy foundation not forcing you to quit anything as slow process and "something" is always better than "nothing".

May your year be filled with joy, happiness, good health, frequent smiles, more laughter, good nights, good days, good health and endless blissfulness!