personal growth

Twin Flames

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Imagine your soul energy burning in one big flame. Imagine that flame being divided in two. One part of the soul in you and one part the soul in another. You're each a whole and independent individual, but still one half of a greater oneness; The Twin Flame Union.

The feelings of recognition brought on by the union of your souls are felt so intensely that everything outside of this awe-inspiring, wondrous connection simply ceases to exist. If one or both twins are already in relationships, these often get temporarily pushed aside and totally eclipsed by the power of the twin flame connection in order to allow the strong bonding between the twin lovers to take place. When you meet your twin flame you'll be astounded by how deeply and endlessly you love this person, not with time, but immediately. Love at first sight. The status of existing relationships with someone else falls to be completely irrelevant. Many walk out of existing relationships upon meeting their twin flame simply because the love and connection felt is so strong that staying in the old relationship becomes an unbearable lie. It's like an uncontrollable explosion of a love so powerful you don't even know what to do with yourself, how to slow down the process or even resist it. The connection is so intense and insanely good it almost hurts.

In the beginning you'll be surprised by all the things you have in common. Similar experiences from the past, similar thoughts and feelings, you view the world in the same way, you have almost identical visions, ideas and plans for the future, you think the same way, you feel the same way, you even know what your twin is thinking and feeling. There's no end to the synchronicity between you. You end each other’s sentences. You say the same things at once. You call each other at the same time. Send texts at the same time. Think about and want the same things at the same time. You'll be overly amazed by how much alike you are and often end up saying; "meeting you was like meeting myself!" That's exactly what happens when you meet your twin.

As the bond and connection between you and your twin flame grows deeper and deeper, you'll discover that it's not synchronicity by chance. It's too much to be a coincidence. Thoughts like; "you can read my mind" are very common. Your twin flame is your mirror, a reflection of yourself, your values and experiences, your point of views, dreams, visions, thoughts and feelings. It does not stop there. You are the energetic mirrors of your souls. When you look at your twin you see your soul. You and your twin's soul are the same. You will come to the realization that you've known your twin before. It's a recognition between the two of you not possible to explain as you've never met in this reality. You will both be filled with a new truth of previous lives and existence. And as you spend more time with you twin it feels less like you're getting to know him/her, but more so that you remember who he/she is.


Seeing yourself reflected in your twin's soul is a spiritual experience beyond human explanation. It has to be experienced and felt. It's like a beautiful feeling of coming home. You will learn the meaning of loving someone completely unconditional and nothing other than your true self is required of you to be. You will love and be loved in a way you never even dared to dream of. That love will be the strongest love you've ever felt and it will change you forever.

Nothing can or will ever come in the way of your love for each other. Read: your love for each other. However, your life together might be a whole other story if you're not ready for the intensity of a twin flame reunion.

When connecting with your twin flame your soul awakens. As your soul awakens, what comes to the surface is not only the blissful and magnified divinity, light and love, but also every other dark part of your soul. The dark parts of your soul is to be found and released within your ego.


We all have our inner demons hidden and concealed, but as you reunite with your twin flame, those demons wake up. It might be lack of self-love, self-mastery, self-acceptance and image of your own Self, which you've been running from and denying. It will all be awakened and reflected back on you which brings forward a whole new level of an uncomfortable reality. Whether you want it or not and regardless of your choices from the point of meeting your twin, the meeting signals the start of a metamorphosis; a journey of self-discovery and transformation which calls you to re-evaluate everything you think you know. Just like the metamorphosis of the caterpillar transforming to a butterfly. This destructive process will provide you with new knowledge pushing you out of the co-dependent, ego-based relationship mind-set into the reality of unconditional love.

A true twin flame is the most important person you'll ever meet. They tear down your walls and smack you awake of your own Self. A twin flame's purpose is not only to provide you with the greatest love of all, the unconditional love, it's to shake you up, challenge you, tear up your ego, show you your obstacles and addictions and break your heart open if necessary so new light can get in. The transformation you're about to undergo is as inevitable as the death of a physical body. You cannot stop it. The shift is not only necessary, it is inevitable.

Switching from a normal relationship into a twin flame union is not the equivalent of moving from one relationship to another. It's an actual quantum jump between levels of consciousness and parallel dimensions. To maintain a physical union with your twin flame necessitates a completely new level of honesty, transparency and acceptance and it requires a strong, real connection to your true Self as well as the spiritual Source (God, Allah, The Creator). More often than not, when twins first meet they are simply not ready or strong enough in their connection to themselves to be able to make this quantum jump. Often the twins fail to see that what is being offered is not only a new relationship, but the opportunity to become all that they are meant to be. 


Your twin will be the greatest thing that has ever happened to you in this lifetime, but will also challenge you in ways which you view as extremely difficult. This is for you to locate and acknowledge blockages and fears within your ego to release it. It might be fear of rejection, jealousy, possessiveness, bitterness and/or hatred to your past, fear of not being good enough and other ripple effects of fear-based thinking. Often what twins fail to realize is that they're offered a great opportunity to grow spiritually and emotionally by examining thoughts, feelings, fears, pain, doubts and beliefs to shift from fear-based thinking to heart-based being. As you do the work inside out, you're causing both of you to grow. While you release it in yourself, you release it in your twin as well because whatever issue, distress or dissatisfaction you might be having, your twin has it too. It might appear differently, but the main cause to the issue exists in both of you as you are one and the same. If you choose to deny it all and postpone the growth you've been given the opportunity to achieve, the issue will arrive again shortly as it has to be dealt with and healed. It will never pass. When you actually heal the cause to uncomfortable feelings, you're doing yourself as well as your twin a favor, because whatever changes in one of you, changes in both of you. The issue will disappear and it won't return unless there's more hidden darkness and baggage within waiting to see daylight. 

When you choose to surrender to the knowing of the transformation you inevitably have to go through; you grow emotionally and spiritually in tremendous speed and you release tension within yourself. As you do this you will erase obstacles in the relationship. Obstacles usually ending in twin flame separation. The separation will be inevitable if you refuse your transformation. If you can't face your fears and inner troubles while in the relationship you will find yourself thrown out of the relationship where you're left with no choice but to transform and face it all alone. In other words, the pain you'll feel when separated from your twin will bring every fear and distress to the surface all at once where you're left with no choice but to face it, find ways to heal your sorrow and grow from that experience. As mentioned, your transformation is inevitable. If you do the work required to release ego and fear-based-thinking to grow emotionally and spiritually, the relationship will continuously grow deeper and better in an never ending euphoric spiral.


If the twin flame separation takes place, you will not be separated forever.  One or both twins often rate the “risk” of moving from what is a safe, familiar and manageable relationship to what is unconventional, passionate and intense as simply too high. In pure defense of the distress caused by the intensity, many will escape the relationship to opt for a more familiar route and relationship.This often happens if one of the twins is spiritually and emotionally more mature than the other. The emotionally and spiritually immature twin will run from the mature twin until the maturity level is about equal and you're both ready for the final reunion.

If you know by now reading this, that you're separated from your twin and what you go through is as painful as a living hell.. Slow down. Let it go. As I said, you will not be separated forever. It's not possible. Completely surrender and trust the process you're going through. This transformational process will lead you back together. You're chasing the impossible if you're chasing your twin. If you run before a mirror, what happens? The running will be reflected on you. If you run, your twin will run as well as your twin is your reflection. You're both running in the same direction. You also run in exact same speed which means you'll never cross paths. If you stop, your twin stops. The road back to your twin flame requires real connection to your true Self as well as the spiritual Source (God, Allah, The Creator). As you grow, so does your twin. Your emotional and spiritual connection within yourself will reflect on your twin. As this transformation is finding it's place in you, it's being integrated within your twin as well, resulting in you being equally spiritually enlightened with depth needed to prepare you for a final twin flame reunion.

Ok, pause! Pause for a minute. I know this is heavy stuff and almost written like it's to prepare you for a job interview before signing a contract. Well, this is the most important job you'll ever get and it's where you sign and fulfill your soul contract.
Take a breath and know that if you feel like I portray the twin flame union as a complicated, fucked up and difficult relationship, I'm here to tell you, it's not. It's freakin` INCREDIBLE! It's out of this world amazing. The gift given to me through this union has erased so many fears and blockages in my life I don't even know where to begin. It has provided me with a love so infinite I go to bed every single day knowing I couldn't possibly love him more than I do right now, but wake up the day after loving him 1000 times more than I did yesterday. It just never stops. It's like a fountain growing bigger and stronger as each day pass. You'll find a link to my twin flame experience here or at the end of this article.


So now what? How can you make this complicated journey as smooth, balanced and delightful as possible? You have to fully accept and connect to who you are and your true Self, let go of your ego, surrender to your destiny, have faith in yourself, have faith in every process you're going through in life no matter how painful and acceptance of your soul contract is a necessity. You have to love yourself unconditionally and practice unconditional love and compassion for all life, because that's the purpose of the soul. That's who you're meant to be. Then, and only then, will you be able to maintain the twin flame relationship or yet again meet your twin flame, fulfilling your eternal promise to each other. The promise of giving each other what you need to be who you're meant to be.

I might have scared you a little on the intensity of meeting your one and only, but it's the reality of the twin flame reunion. The whole process is actually stupid simple when you know what you now know after reading this. All that's required are complete honesty, transparency, communication, introspection and letting go of your ego through spiritual growth
Nothing can be compared to a twin flame relationship. Absolutely nothing! 
The greatest sign I got right before and after meeting my twin was that I saw 11:11, 11/11, 11-11 etc everywhere! Don't look for it, but if you see it, your twin is getting closer.

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Be the palm tree

In his silence all he could hear was his own sad sniffing. His face was filled with tears falling from his red swollen eyes. He closed the door behind him without locking it. He left a note on the dresser.


«Dear someone. What do you do when the future you predicted and the life you planned out so perfectly slips through your fingers? What do you do when it feels like you´re dead in the dark but your heart keeps providing life, even though every heartbeat feels like a struggle for survival. What do you do when the unbearable pain in your stomach defeat the presence of hunger? What do you do when you wake up every morning realizing you lost your dreams on the battlefield called reality? I'm lost in this whirlwind and I'm sorry.»

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His destructive thought patterns would clutter the most obvious rays of light sent his way. Every day as he woke up he felt a brief moment of no memories, no worries. Just a blissful emptiness. But then it hit him. Reality. It hit him so hard he couldn't breathe through the ache and endless tears. The pain was always right around the corner, calling his name pulling him back into his misery. He couldn't even remember when it all began, when his happiness went below zero and all of his dreams vanished. He could hear a voice of self-love trying to enter his thoughts but it drowned in the floods of a devil on his shoulder sending tsunamis of fear and hatred. He was so lost in his loneliness feeling no hope of escape. He could sit for hours crying tears of sorrow no one ever saw. Talking words no ever heard. No one knew what he was really going through. No one would ever really listen and no one had the time to guide him. He couldn't take it anymore. He got on his bike and went far into the woods.

"Is anybody out there?" He said, but received no answer.  
"Give me a sign! A reason not to give up!"

"Look around." A voice said.
"Do you see the sunflower and the palm tree?" The voice continued.

He flinched before he calmly answered.

"I once planted a sunflower and a palm tree seed, each with their own purpose. I took amazingly good care of both. I gave them light. I gave them love. I gave them warmth. I gave them comfort and I gave them time. The sunflower struck sprouts within days. It grew tall and yellow in its entire splendor resembling the sun. The palm tree on the other hand was still in the dark, no sprout to be seen but I didn't give up on it. The year after the sunflower grew again to be even more beautiful than I remembered. But the palm tree - nothing. I refused to give up on it. Year three arrived, no palm tree. By this time the sunflower had a family. Two more to be seen. The fourth year of waiting for the palm tree to sprout my persistence on not giving up on the palm tree still showed no signal of life. But then, after five years of nurturing and refusing to give up, a cute little sprout saw sunlight for the first time. This sprout was as tiny as it could get. It seemed almost insignificant in its majestic nature surroundings. Six months later, that palm tree stood tall and victorious as the king of its surroundings. Like the magical nature around it bended their knee to their king, all looking admirably up at it.. It took the palm tree five years to grow its roots."

He listened carefully and the voice continued.

"Don't compare yourself to others. The palm tree had a different purpose than the sunflower. They are both beautiful in their own way. But you should know one thing. No matter the magnificent power of a storm or a hurricane, the stem of the palm tree never breaks. It can bend all the way to where it looks like it's about to break. But it doesn't. It will bend, it can be harmed, it might change direction and adjust to it's environment filled with storming knock outs, taking every punch as a victorious hero, but it will stand tall. If it falls over it will rise again towards the sunlight. When the storm has passed, an even greater strength resides within the palm tree. Strength like that takes time. Growing roots like that takes time. Know this; all this time while you've been struggling in the dark you've actually been growing your own roots, like the palm tree struggled to survive through dirt growing it's roots. Every plant has to grow through dirt before it sprouts and blooms. And just like the palm tree, you too are a part of nature. Everyone is."

He soaked up every words coming to him like it was a matter of life and death. And it was.

"You will reach the same height and strength as the palm tree. Your time will come. Appreciate the darkness you're growing through. It is within this time you grow your unbreakable, untouchable, unmistakable, indestructible and unshakable roots to who you're supposed to become; a man who is as magnificent as he can be."

He started to see a great glimpse of light at the end of the tunnel.
He asked.

"How big and tall do you think I can get?"

He quickly got an answer.

"How big and tall does a palm tree get?"

"As big and tall as it can?"

"You understand now. Give yourself and the world the gift of growing as big and tall as you can be, my friend."

He sat down, pulled up a piece of paper and a pen and wrote. "Be the palm tree. Stand tall. Be victorious." He came home with a life saving story as he answered his own suicide note.

"Dear someone. (I'm someone!)
What do you do when the future you predicted and the life you planned out so perfectly slips through your fingers? (It's only your seed being planted in the dark.)
What do you do when it feels like you´re dead in the dark, but your heart keeps providing life, even though every heartbeat feels like a struggle for survival? (You're about to rise!)
What do you do when the storming pain in your stomach defeat the presence of hunger? (You stand tall!)
What do you do when you wake up every morning realizing you’ve lost your dreams on the battlefield called reality? (You go for victory!)
I'm lost in this whirlwind and I'm sorry. (It's ok. I'm your friend and I will never let any storm break you! Be the palm tree. Stand tall. Be victorious. Sincerely, you.)"

All he needed was someone to actually listen. Someone to guide him. Someone to encourage him. Be that someone for others. And for yourself; be the palm tree.

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